Rob Ghio was born and raised in the Central Valley of California and currently lives in Texas with his wife of 27 years and five daughters (well, three daughters, since two had the audacity to get married).  His family joined the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints when he was seven years old.  He has been a member ever since (despite being a lousy Boy Scout and engaging in such heretical practices as facial hair and colored shirts). 

Rob served a full-time mission for the Church from 1985-1987 in Chicago, Illinois.  He has served in several capacities in the Church, including as a Seminary instructor, Sunday School teacher, Stake Missionary, and as a counselor in several bishoprics.   He current teaches Institute.  

Rob is a graduate of Stanford Law School and currently practices with his own firm in Arlington, Texas.  

13 Responses to “About the Author”

  1. 1 Brother Jon September 9, 2012 at 11:06 pm

    Glad to know it’s alright to have a beard, or at least someone else does.

  2. 3 a gripping life September 10, 2012 at 7:52 am

    I graduated from BYU in 1984. There have been a lot of changes, there’s a new undercurrent – people banding together to discuss important social issues.
    There’s also a new movement called, “Middle Way Mormons.” I actually really like it. It’s a kinder gentler way. (Why can’t a guy wear colored shirts or have facial hair? Why can’t a mother hold her child when it’s being blessed? Why can’t a woman give the last talk in sacrament? Some of these things fall under the heading of false tradition and there is a movement to examine these arbitrary things.) In my opinion, Heavenly Father could care less about stuff like this. Often members use all these rules to judge one another which then creates an atmosphere of fear. Something has got to change because these false traditions are dragging us down and causing the wrong feeling, each ward is different but my Bishop is very fearful and rules oriented. It makes for an oppressive environment – not what the Savior would want.
    Hey, sorry for the ramble. Feel free to delete. I just feel strongly that we need to encourage individuality, embrace differences and not be so fearful. I could go on and on, but you get the gist. Any thoughts?

    • 4 R.S. "Rob" Ghio September 10, 2012 at 9:07 am

      I think the First Presidency is aware of what is going on and is trying to address it. The new handbook and the new teaching manual both make an effort at distinguishing between doctrine and tradition. For example, the handbook makes it clear that white shirts aren’t required for passing the sacrament. But every bishop in my stake still insists on it. It isn’t a matter of anybody being a stickler for the rules…it’s people writing their own rules. I was called on the carpet yesterday for having a blue shirt on. Someone asked me why I wasn’t wearing the “uniform of the priesthood.” I told him that the only priesthood uniform I know about is worn under my shirt. My feeling is that living the gospel is hard enough without adding a bunch of unnecessary additional rules. The apostle Paul addressed this same issue when early converts from Judaism wanted to require non-Jewish converts to conform to certain Jewish traditions. Paul advised them to only worry about “necessary things” and to let the rest go. We probably should do the same.

      • 5 A gripping life September 11, 2012 at 7:05 am

        Thanks for that great answer. My feeling is that rules give people a place where they can feel ” safe” and good. Rules are like a measuring stick, but the problem is, they’re an external measurement. What we as a church should be concerned with is what’s going on on the inside. This whole thing ends up being very shaming and scary for some. I don’t think the First Presidency is addressing it in a way that each Bishop hears it. I seriously wish they would make it very clear that we as a church only worry about the “necessary things”. I’m afraid many people have left for reasons stemming from this. It’s not how I want church to be – I want to leave each Sunday feeling loved not afraid that I exposed who I really am.
        I’m so happy I found you! I feel like you “get it” and that’s so comforting. I think President Uchdorf gets it, too. I hope things change in this area soon. Thanks again for being such a great representative!

      • 6 From the Gulf Coast... April 12, 2014 at 7:28 am

        Thank you for saying this. Some of the best Mormons I know actually wear a beard (and look good in it), don’t wear white shirts all the time and are some of the most caring, Christlike people ever. Sadly, some people in the church are ever finding more ways to “distinguish” themselves from the “rest of us” because of their “righteousness” and their way to observe every jot and tittle of the letter of the law (which they gladly add to at will in order to appear to be extra righteous) while forgetting that they ought also to love as Christ did for their orthodoxy to do them any good. Our ward recently had a fireside where youth were told that going to a school dance one day before their 16th birthday pretty much amounted to a capital offense (maybe they are anxious to have the practice of stoning reestablished so they can stone anybody who dares be honest about going on dates before the magical day on which they celebrate the completion of their 16th trip around the sun). They were even told that they ought not to gather socially at a home to watch a movie or hang out with members of the opposite sex, and heaven forbid if there is an equal number of boys and girls. They were told not to walk around in pairs in the hallways of the church, not to sit by the boy or girl they like and other such things. Every other fireside in this ward is either about dating or modesty to the point that I feel we are doing a great disservice to the youth by focusing on the “don’ts” rather than the “dos” of appropriate behavior and demeanor not only when the opposite sex is present but at all times. I just wish the young women president in this ward would understand that while she is perfectly entitled to dress however she wants and teach her own girls to not wear makeup or nail polish or do their hair, and dress in a t-shirt, oversized jeans and tennis shoes or fat sandals, there are some of us who actually think something of looking presentable at all times and have taught our girls to do so as well…and we are not less “righteous” than she is for doing so. I fear that with this type of culture that some local leaders would have us swallow we are turning away from Christ and becoming more and more like those who were self appointed to monitor everybody else, whom the Master called hypocrites. I know of a seminary teacher who served breakfast for all her students when they memorized their 25 scripture mastery passages except one of her students who has difficulty memorizing (but is exceptionally good at living the gospel). She refused to serve him breakfast because he had not earned it and she could not bring herself to break her rule or making it unfair to those who did memorize because they don’t have the same difficulty. She did this in front of the whole class. I don’t know how she could sleep that night. There is a woman also in my ward who blasted the seminary teachers in front of all seminary parents for not spending enough time dedicated to scripture mastery because “her daughter hasn’t memorized one single scripture this year” (not true) and “how in the world is she going to get her stake award for being a scriptorian if the teacher doesn’t spend time making them memorize.” She went further to say that if she was required to review the scripture mastery with her daughter at home then the whole family better get their award from the stake…………. I could go on, but I have other things that need my attention today. Oh, my people…Christ is waiting with open arms to heal us from ourselves as soon as we stop being busy turning the wheels of self righteousness and discover that He is standing just a little off to the side (or maybe even our back if we have turned from Him) waiting for us to wake up from our stupor and acknowledge how much we stand in need of Him and his redemption. May we all be filled with His love. Much love to y’all!

      • 7 R.S. "Rob" Ghio April 12, 2014 at 10:15 am

        Wow. Love this. You nailed it.

  3. 8 Teralyn Young October 14, 2012 at 10:40 pm

    What a fabulous blog! My husband and I have sat here reading, agreeing and laughing! Thank you for your insightful explanations that we will be able to pass along. I’ve already shared you on FB. Keep up the great work, Bro! 😉

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  5. 11 Melissa July 28, 2014 at 8:25 pm

    Thank you, thank you, thank you for taking the time to write this blog. The information and perspective you have is exactly what I needed to help with a trial I am currently going through. I hope you see this so you know how much I appreciate your efforts.

  6. 13 Joe November 6, 2014 at 3:04 pm

    Good stuff. Stumbled on this blog accidentally and found the topics illuminating. Your blogs are a balanced view of religion and do not necessarily be restricted to the LDS church. I am almost there in getting a handle on the LDS hierarchy.

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